The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reasons for remaining ashore.”
— Vincent Van Gogh
Month: December 2011
Happiness Tip: Live Like it Ends in 2012
Oh, how I love New Year’s resolutions. Something about the blank slate, the possibility for growth.
Like most people, I can’t dive headlong into a major change without a fair bit of contemplation and preparation. This year, I’m going to take stock a little differently; I’ve learned a lot in 2011 about how to live life more fully in 2012. I plan to:
(1) Reflect less on 2011, and more on what I’d do if 2012 was the last year of my life. This really puts things into perspective! This post gives some more context and instructions for this practice.
(2) Make New Year’s resolutions that bring more happiness into my life, that reflect my top priorities, and that are attainable. Resolutions that reduce stress — or more than that, my sense that I am racing through life, working, providing, and consuming without enjoying — will be at the top of my list. For example, I will not be resolving to go on a diet. But I will resolve to eat lunch mindfully, without also reading or checking email.
(3) Make a realistic plan to keep my resolutions. This is key: It is one thing to make a New Year’s resolution, but quite another to know how to fulfill it. Fortunately, I know a lot about how to create a new habit. For me, the science around making changes works.
Take Action: Make a New Year’s resolution that you’d make if you knew you only had this next year to live — a resolution that will make you happier. Now make a realistic plan to keep your resolution!
(If you need help making or keeping your New Year’s resolutions, I hope you’ll take one of my online classes. They start January 9th, and I guarantee that they will make you and your family happier in 2012. Literally: I’ll give you your money back if the class you take doesn’t.)
Wishing you much joy in the New Year!
PS: As I’m taking stock here at the end of the year, I want to be sure that you know this: I am so grateful for you. Thank you to all who read this weekly email and pass it on to friends; to all who are enrolled in my classes; to all who’ve taken a pledge to be happier, to make the world a happier place. Your enthusiasm and support makes my life meaningful and, yes, happy! Thank you!
Gratitude Photo
Thursday Thought
Video: Why Not to Bribe Kids
“If you empty the dishwasher right now, I’ll give you a dollar.” Does this sound familiar? We’ve all done it: offered our kids little bribes–and maybe even threatened to take away privileges–to get them to do what we’ve asked. Here’s why we might not want to do this, even if it works.
Special thanks to the Quality of Life Foundation, which made this series possible.
Cross posted from the Greater Good Science Center.
Give (Yourself?) Happiness This Year!
It’s not too late to give Raising Happiness as a gift!
Giving a book?
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Giving the Raising Happiness Online Class?
Monica, and she can help you with timing if you don’t want the recipient to get the welcome emails right away. We can also send a lovely eCard notifying your recipient of the gift.
Giving YOURSELF the Class as a gift?
How awesome! You deserve it! We hope you’ll treat yourself to this with a buddy; Raising Happiness discussion groups are fun and effective. When you join one with a friend, I donate 10% back to the organization of your choice.
Check out our course offerings here.
Most Popular Raising Happiness posts of 2011
Check out the most popular Raising Happiness posts of 2011, here on my Greater Good Science Center blog.
Friday Inspiration: Happiness Revealed
This is a profoundly inspiring, absolutely breathtaking video — well worth 10 minutes of your time. I’m smitten by the child (around 4 minutes in), and everyday I like to remind myself of the man’s parting words “Let the gratefulness overflow into blessing all around you…And then it will really be a good day.”
Thank you to reader Jocelyn who shared this on FaceBook.
What inspires you or makes you laugh?
Thursday Thought
Yet, taught by time, my heart has learned to glow for other’s good, and melt at other’s woe.”
–Homer
Podcast: Holiday Traditions that Foster Happiness
Rona and I discuss why some holiday traditions can fuel our children’s happiness, and give several suggestions for fun, joy-inducing holiday rituals.
Please check out my podcast with Rona Renner either here on the Greater Good website, or here on iTunes. Happy listening!
Cross posted from the Greater Good Science Center.