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by Christine Carter

A Valentine’s Day Prezzy (for Yourself!)

Transform your relationship in four short weeks! “Rekindling Romance,” — an online class you can take on your own time — will help you build a foundation for a passionate, long lasting, and joyful relationship.

Meet with Dr. Christine Carter (and like-minded learners) to deepen your understanding at a live Q&A coaching call on Tuesday, February 26 at 5:30pm Pacific/8:30pm Eastern.

This class will help you:

  • Take your relationship to the next level. We’ll discuss easy and effective strategies for feeling closer to your partner.
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  • End recurring arguments once and for all. We’ll discuss how to categorize the problems you have in your relationship, decide which problems you can live with, and solve the problems you don’t want to deal with any more.
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  • Build a foundation for a passionate, joyful, and sustainable romantic relationship.

This online class (a Homestudy sampler) includes five video classes, lively online discussion groups, weekly practices, and a live coaching call and Q&A with Dr. Christine Carter on Tuesday, February 26.

Learn more here.

Now get continuing education credits!
Raising Happiness is a licensed CEU provider by the California Board of Behavorial Sciences. Our license number is PCE 5355. Learn more here.

 

by Christine Carter

Happiness Tip: Foster Appreciation

The best gift you can give yourself this Valentine’s Day is gratitude for your special someone. Research shows that when we consciously think of things we appreciate about our spouses, we feel more in-love!

Take Action: Every day this week, note something you love and appreciate about your Valentine. (Even if you are annoyed that she didn’t take out the trash, or he forgot to make the kids’ lunches, again.)  Extra Credit: Tell him or her what you love in a text, a card, or a little whisper at the end of the day. Expressing your gratitude is even more powerful than just thinking about it.

Join the Discussion: What do you love about your lover? Share in the comments below!

by Christine Carter

Thursday Thought

Love is more than just a feeling: it’s a process requiring continual attention. Loving well takes laughter, loyalty, and wanting more to be able to say, “I understand” than to hear, “You’re right.”
―Molleen Matsumura

by Christine Carter

Does Happiness Undermine Success?

Are you content to postpone happiness to promote achievement?

Are you pushing your children to succeed? Or giving them skills for happiness? In the latest video in a series on my Greater Good blog, I explain how happiness can lead to success. We all know successful people who are NOT happy. But did you know that happy people are more likely to be successful?

by Christine Carter

Rekindling Romance Online Class

Is it possible to feel wildly in love…even after you’ve been a couple for a while?

New brain and social science shows that it is! Registration is now open for “Rekindling Romance,” an online class that will help you build the foundation you need for a passionate, long lasting, and joyful relationship.

This class will help you:

  • Take your relationship to the next level. We’ll discuss easy and effective strategies for feeling closer to your partner.
    .
  • End recurring arguments once and for all. We’ll discuss how to categorize the problems you have in your relationship, decide which problems you can live with, and solve the problems you don’t want to deal with any more.
    .
  • Build a foundation for a passionate, joyful, and sustainable romantic relationship.

This online class (a Homestudy sampler) includes five video classes, lively online discussion groups, weekly practices, and a live coaching call and Q&A with Dr. Christine Carter on Tuesday, February 26.

Learn more here.

Now get continuing education credits!
Raising Happiness is a licensed CEU provider by the California Board of Behavorial Sciences. Our license number is PCE 5355. Learn more here.

 

by Christine Carter

Happiness Tip: Develop Grit

Did you know that the best predictor of success in school is not grades or SAT scores, but a quality researchers call “grit”? Gritty people do well because they are able to persist in the face of difficulty. In adulthood, grit predicts both success and happiness.

Grit is not a personality trait that you have or don’t have; it is a skill you can develop in yourself.

If you have a hard time persisting through challenge, the best way to develop more grit is to check your belief about WHY you are facing difficulty. Do you believe that you are inherently not-good at whatever it is you are pursuing? If so, you have what psychologists call a “fixed-mindset,” and that fixed-mindset is your biggest problem.

People who have “growth-mindsets” (instead of fixed-mindsets) tend to have more grit because they believe that their success is based on their effort rather than their innate talents. So when they find something challenging or difficult, they believe that they can and will improve through their hard work and persistent effort.

Mindsets are self-fulfilling. People who believe something is hard because they inherently aren’t good at it quit earlier, and improve less. People who believe that they CAN improve through continued practice tend to practice more–even when the going gets rough–and therefore they get even better.

Take Action: Identify an area of your life where you tend to quit in the face of difficulty. Do you believe that you lack the innate talent that you need to succeed? Research shows us, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the power of innate talent pales in comparison to the power of grit when it comes to success. If you practice something deliberately, especially if you have good strategies to direct your effort, your performance will improve. Try approaching your difficult activity with this growth-mindset knowledge, and see if it helps you persist when the going gets rough.

Join the discussion: In what area of your life do you want to develop more grit? Do you have a fixed-mindset (you believe that you are successful–or not–because of your innate ability) or a growth-mindset (you believe your success will depend on your effort and practice)? Comment below.

by Christine Carter

Friday Inspiration

In “flipped learning,” students watch podcasts of their teacher’s lectures on their own time and spend their time in the classroom applying what they’ve learned at home. This allows people to learn at their own pace by watching the lecture wherever and whenever they have time, and by watching it as many times as they need to. Schools that have applied this method of teaching in all their classrooms have seen their failure rates drop dramatically.

If you’ve ever wondered how my online classes work, I use this “flipped learning” model, which works as well for busy parents and professionals as it does for high school students. You watch or listen to a video class on your own time—whenever and wherever you want, as many times as you want—and then we meet live (online or on a phone line) to discuss and integrate the teaching, and to ask and answer questions.