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Live Q&A Today

I’m looking forward to our live Q&A today! We’ve decided to do this as a phone call to minimize technical problems and drops. And that way you can maybe go outside for a walk while you participate (or perhaps pace around your living room). ⁠

I’ll begin by giving tips for supporting teens through this pandemic, particularly as we [try to get them to] shelter in place. I’ve just had a great call with a bunch of teenagers, and they gave ME tips to give YOU. 🙂 ⁠

After that, I’ll take your questions, either pandemic-specific or anything related to teenagers or The New Adolescence.⁠

When: April 2, 2020 from 1:30 to 2:30 p.m. PST ⁠
Dial-in number: (701) 801-1211 (Access code: 591-941-964)⁠ (International callers can find a local dial-in number here. )

You can also join the call online by using this link. Once you’ve entered the online meeting room, click the phone icon at the top of the screen and then “Mic & Speakers” (make sure your microphone is turned on). We will not be using video.

If you can’t make the call, don’t worry! We can send out the recording when the call is over. Just RSVP here so that we know where to send it. ⁠

If you can’t make it and you have burning questions that you would like to make sure I answer, just add it to the comments below. Otherwise, I will take questions in the order that I receive them.⁠

Join us! An ONLINE Q&A

It’s disappointing that all my book talks have been postponed until next fall. But I’m happy to announce that we are joining the ranks of online learners and teachers! We can do this thing.

If you have RSVP’ed or reserved a ticket to an event, you have likely already heard or will hear from the event organizers when we have new dates. (A huge THANK YOU to Marielle and all the event organizers who’ve worked so hard to put those events together!) In the meantime, let’s talk teens online! If you’ve purchased The New Adolescence or were planning to attend an event, I’d love for you to join a live online Q&A on April 2nd at 1:30pm pacific time.  RSVP to attend the live call here.

If your household is anything is like mine, your world has likely been up-ended. Stay safe and take care of yourselves. Take this time of reset and rest. Check on your elderly neighbors before you run to the store. Please stay safe; let’s take care of each other.

 

 

Flow Class: Finding Meaning at Work

“Success is about getting; significance is about giving: we make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”

–Satinder Dhiman, Seven Habits of Highly Fulfilled People

Social psychologists define meaning, as it applies to our lives, as “an intellectual and emotional assessment of the degree to which we feel our lives have purpose, value and impact.” In a stunning series of studies, Adam Grant proved that briefly showing people how their work helps others increases not only how happy people are on the job but also how much they work and accomplish.

Grant’s most famous series of studies were conducted at a call center with paid fundraisers tasked with phoning potential donors to a public university. As anyone who’s ever made cold calls knows, work in a call center isn’t easy. People receiving calls are often annoyed and can be downright rude. Employees must endure frequent rejection on the phone and low morale at the office—all in exchange for relatively low pay. Not surprisingly, call center jobs often have a high staff turnover rate.

In an effort to see if he could motivate call center fundraisers to stay on the job longer, Grant brought in a few scholarship students (who presumably had benefited from the fundraisers’ work) for a five-minute meeting where callers could ask them questions about their classes and experience at the university. In the next month, that quick conversation yielded unbelievable results. Callers who had met the scholarship students spent twice as long on the phone as the fundraisers who had not met any students. They accomplished far more, bringing in an average of 171 percent more money.

In another study, Grant found that having fundraisers read an account from scholarship students about how they had been helped by the fundraisers’ work significantly increased the amount of money they raised. But reading an account from a previous fundraiser about how the callers themselves benefited from their work as a fundraiser did not. The difference? A shift in the callers’ beliefs about the social meaning of their work, and an increased sense of their purpose, value, and impact.

These studies are remarkably counterintuitive. We assume that Westerners are best motivated on the job by our own interests— money, prestige, what’s in it for us, what we’ll get, not what we give. But actually, these studies show clearly that we humans are best motivated by our significance to other people. We’ll work harder and longer and better—and feel happier about the work we are doing— when we know that someone else is benefiting from our efforts. It turns out that one sure path to finding your flow–to both ease and strength–is to find the social meaning in your daily activities.

 


This post is taken from “The Science of Finding Flow,” an online course I created as a companion to my book The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less. I’m sharing “lessons” from this online class here, on my blog. Want to see previous posts? Just click this The Science of Finding Flow tag. Enjoy!

Welcome To Unit 2!

“What if you actually HAVE all the time you need, but you just don’t know it?”

This post is from a series about how we choose to spend our time in my online course, Science of Finding Flow. Read the rest here.

 


This post is taken from “The Science of Finding Flow,” an online course I created as a companion to my book The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less. I’m sharing one “lesson” from this online class per week here, on my blog. Want to see previous posts? Just click this The Science of Finding Flow tag. Enjoy!

Video: Wrapping Up Unit 3, DETOX

We think we need more time to get our work done. We complain that we have too much work and too little time. But actually, it’s that we don’t have enough energy, attention, or focus to get our work done. In other words, we don’t have enough time without interruptions to get our work done. When we shrink the amount of time we spend checking our devices, we gain time, of course, for our most important priorities. But we also recapture the energy we lose by the stress and tension constant checking causes and we recapture the self-control and self-discipline we exert by constantly having to reign in our attention.


“People won’t always like it when you start living according to your own priorities, rather than their expectations of you. So be kind to yourself, and to others, as you adjust.”


Even more importantly, when we step back from our devices, we regain our ability to do deep, thoughtful, important work. In this age of standardized testing, we’ve come to mistakenly value quick thinking—the type of problem-solving we do under time pressure. But today’s workplace and economy actually rewards deep thinking more than quick thinking. Only deep thinking produces true innovations, accomplishments of lasting meaning, and social changes that matter.

But for deep thinking, you are going to need to be able to focus. Great news…That’s the next unit! Join us!


This post is taken from “The Science of Finding Flow,” an online course I created as a companion to my book The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less. Want to take the course? It’s free! Just click this The Science of Finding Flow tag. Enjoy!